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Are You A Flirt?
March 25, 2008 - 1:30pm — AnnW
“Flirtation: attention without intention.” 
 Six packs, gelled hair, nice eyes, and a sexy appearance Have you ever met a cute guy? It’s one of those moments where music plays in the background, the guy of your dreams walks up to you, and your jaws completely drop down. Prince Charming has arrived and you know you want him! Problem is: how are you going to get him? Almost 75% of teenagers find it difficult to attract the opposite sex. Both male and females have the potential to be appealing, but all they need is the correct way to gain interest from others. Here are some accountable advice and insight towards the feeling of physically, emotionally, and verbally grabbing someone’s attention: Flirting. If you click Urban Dictionary… flirting is defined as making playful, romantic, or sexual overtures. In reality, flirting can be done in many ways. That includes touching particular body parts, getting close to the person you like, keeping their attention on you, and even dressing your best! Before we start breaking down our topic into the facts and myths for each gender; we’ll first start with the basic communication skills. Communication skills are very important when it comes to flirting. If you want to make yourself look interesting, then you should know how to word your mouth right off the back. Practicing before hand also works. A good talker should be able to switch words and topics very quickly. It’s all about having fun and giving that person strong flirting signals. Humor is the overall foundation towards flirting. Without humor, the conversation would be boring than amusing. Confidence is the key. It’s okay to be confident because that’s the main trigger pulling you off. Flaunt your confidence & be over the top. You don’t necessarily need the hottest body or the thinnest waist, but you should feel good about yourself inside and out. Ladies first: Steps and Tips!- Establish a basic friendship with the boy you like. Socialize with him often and become noticed.- Tell him he looks good, give him some nice compliments. After all, love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt and he wears it everyday.- Avoid stuttering. - Smile at him even from far away. - Impress him by wearing clothes that feels and looks good on your body. You should always be presentable. NEVER wear anything too revealing. - Don’t sit there! Take advantage… talk to him when you have the opportunity and show him that you’re willing to listen.- Yes, it’s okay to touch him. That includes his hands, arms, legs, or leaning yourself on him. If you want, get a hug. (This is physical attraction).- Make sure you like him because you want to gain a better understanding of his personality. - Call him by his full name. - When a boy asks you who you like; don’t give in so easily and say “I’m not telling you!’’- Look into the boy and also ask for any type of contact. (They usually give it to you).- Looks and popularity often begin relationships, but they are not everything. Keep in mind his personality and question why you like this boy and whether you really should; don't just go out with a boy because of his popularity.- Girls can laugh sweetly, twirl their hair, blush when it comes to certain situations, sit closer, or maybe even look the boy straight in the eye.- Things like walking differently and dressing differently shows you might be trying too hard, so it’s best to stay away from the 3 things above.- Respond to him every time he starts the conversation. If you don’t… he’s going to think he’s not good enough for you. “ Okay, there’s this one boy I like, a lot. Every time I see him at school, I just feel like screaming I love you. We do flirt with each other in a way. But I want to know another way to flirt with him, and I'm nervous to walk right up to him. See he really trusts me, like most guys, he even talks to me about other girls. But I know he likes me, I just know it. So how can I flirt with him? I don’t want to count on my body.’’-Tiffany, age 15. Answer? “If he likes you for who you are, it should be enough to get him! Laugh a LOT and joke around with him. Be fun! Not girly though, because that can seem trampy sometimes. Be yourself and have fun with him! Maybe even twirl your hair and give him really sweet smiles! This situation seems like it would work out!” The Fella’s! Tips and Advice:- Show off what you got. That’s the first thing to do when you want to make an impression. Follow up with your personality.- Cliché. Use the old fashioned pick- up lines. If you’re talented enough; maybe you can find one that’ll blow her mind away. - Do your hair and be nicely groomed… look clean and wear something that’ll make you look adorable :]- Be the first one to start the conversation. Talk smoothly. It’s okay if you fake your confidence; it’ll come more naturally once the girl of your dreams responds.- If you say something weird, bring up something funny and turn it into a joke. Girls love guys with a sense of humor.- I forgot to mention that if you’re going to be around your friends… don’t leave the girl out. It’s a turn off. Introduce her. - Ask for her number, or any other type of contact. - Sitting side-to- side is all that you may need. Try not to breathe down her neck while you’re at it.- Keep jumping from one topic to another while talking.- Find three things that you and her share in common (whether it’s music, food, athletic sports, movies, or the kind of person they look for in a relationship).- If you’re going to flirt, don’t do it with two girls. It causes for one to get confused and dislike you.- Take things slowly and make her feel warm inside. - Never go up and say “May I kiss you?” out of the blue, it’s nerve- racking.- If the girl is very good looking, she will be so used to having guys flirt with her that it won't mean anything. Now is the time to be cocky and funny. Poke her a little bit and make her laugh.- A little sarcasm here and there would help because a girl would feel as if you’re a challenge that needs to be conquered.- Bring her to places with a good atmosphere.- Hold her hand, touch her arms, hug onto her waist, be keen with your words, sit close, and keep her firmly by your side. Give her your full attention.- If it’s an intimate moment and the time is right… you can actually lean in and give her a kiss. - Don’t look at her chest, especially when she’s aware of it. Flirting isn’t about working your body or being the home coming queen of the school, but it’s rather about finding another way to attract the guy/ girl you’re deeply drawn to. If you see someone you like, be sure to bat an eye or wink. Flirting will get your message across a lot simpler, rather than having to focus on what you should say and how. To be honest, flirting is present in almost every relationship.
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